” Go for No ” is a powerful audiobook by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz about inoculating yourself from the fear of failure and rejection. People don’t fail at their dreams because they’re a failure, they fail at their dreams because they stop trying, they stop learning, and they stop growing. The more you hear NO, the more you ‘ll know, and the more you know the better you’ll grow – That’s how I sum it up! As they say in the book “ Every ‘ NO’ holds within it valuable information to move forward…” (Ch22). So whether it comes to asking that attractive person out on a date or presenting your business idea, It’s important to understand that failure and rejection are a part of the growing process. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re going to be perfect from the start, that’s not realistic. Through failure, you grow, through rejection you gain understanding. Even Jesus knew he had to be rejected to get to the next level, “The Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life.” ( Luke 9:22). Jesus understood rejection was a part of the process. Yet he is risen and is one the most influential personalities in history. So strike out of your comfort zone, and don’t take rejection or failure personal, you must NOT let NO stop you from saying YES today.
1. Accept Failure and Rejection as a part of the Growing Process.
Have “No Goals” (Ch 18) as they say in the book, make offers, and track how many times people say no by placing 20 beans in your pocket, and every time someone says no, move that bean from one pocket to the other. What this does is keeps you from getting lazy, and underperforming once you hit your comfort zone.
2. Don’t Carry Past Failures or Successes into tomorrow
Learn from your mistakes, and start fresh every day. No one really cares about how bad you messed up yesterday – except the devil, but he ‘s going to hell anyway. People are more concerned about themselves, and how you treat them today. Always give your best today.
3. Have a long-term Vision for your life – Who do you want to become?
Your vision will drive you, and make you do the right things. Take time to write out a vision statement for your life. How will you be remembered?